Your child's speech development

The development of your child's speech and language capabilities is one of the most natural as well as impressive. Help your child along the way with these suggestions.

Almost all children pick up on their speech capabilities at a very young age without any formal instruction. Human beings, after all born to talk and this trait is indeed an innate gift for your child. While they are not born to talk immediately, children as babies use cries and gestures to convey meanings. They also seem to immediately grasp whatever message you are trying to convey to them by making sense of your body language as well as your gestures.

Most children say their first words between 12 and 18 months of age. By age 4 to 5 years, they begin using complex sentences. As they hit the kindergarten age, your child should by now know most of the fundamentals of their language and be able to converse easily with someone at their level.

However, as a parent, you should understand that each child has different aspects of speech development. While one child may say his or her word at 10 months, another could do the same at 20 months.

Helping your child along the way

Not to worry - as a parent, you can play an important role when it comes to helping your child develop his or her skills. The first thing you should realise is that children learn at different rates. Some are fast learners, others are slow. To begin teaching your child, you should not judge based on speed but instead focus on whether your child's language development proceeds steadily.

The way you engage with your child will determine his or her language development, which is vital in the first five years. A few things to keep in mind are these :

• Enjoy the process : Don't force your child to learn faster than normal or put stress upon the learning process. It should be an enjoyable process for both of you.
• Keep it natural : Remember, you are talking to someone who is obviously not at the same level as you are. So talk in a natural way that your child understands and comprehends.
• Listen to your child : Pay attention to what yous child is saying and listen to the sounds and words that he or she is saying. This way, you are able to better respond to your child and help him or her progress further.
• Make it fun : Learning should be a fun process, not arduous. Do activities that will not only teach your child but also make it fun to do together. For example, read stories together and make communicating fun so your child is more eager as well as encouraged to learn.
• Be mindful of your own language : Want your child to learn properly? Then, be mindful of the language that goes around in your household. Having bad habits will only mean your child pick up the same.

One important advice - don't pay too much attention on the "problems" (such as pronunciation). Most children generally outgrow such things, which is a common issue. However, if your child displays signs of not being able to comprehend you or taking longer than usual, then you may seek advice from speacialists in children's speech, language and hearing.

By : Ms Woo Pei Jun, Developmental Psychologist

More speech development ideas, as suggested by the American Speech-Language-Hearing Association :

• Make a scrapbook of favourite or familiar things by cutting out pictures. Go through the scrapebook with your child and name everything in it or talk about each picture.
• Expand on vocabulary by naming body parts and identifying what you do with them. For example, say "This is my nose. I can smell flowers, brownies, popcorn and soap".
• Acknowledge, encourage and praise all attempts to speak. Show your child that you understand by fulfilling the request, if appropriate.
• Encourage your child to give directions.
• Sing simple song and recite nursery rhymes to show the rhythm and pattern of speech.

Source : Positive Parenting Magazine, vol 1 :2008, www.mypositiveparenting.org

Encourage learning!

The home is the best place to begin your child's learning. Here are some suggestions.

One of the best teachers a child can have is his or her parents. And the best place for a child to learn is in his or her home environment. Help your child develop skills, whether it is writing, reading, learning a new foreign language or simply just picking up new learning habits, with these easy - to - do tasks.

1. Talk, sing and dance with your child : Children love physical activities and nothing makes them excited than being able to do fun things with you. Learn some new songs and teach these to your child. Include the entire family in this fun - and - games session to help motivate your child more.
2. Read to your child : Children who are read to growing up often fate better than their counterparts who aren't. Reading is one of the fastest ways for a child to pick up learning skills and no one does a better job than a parent. Make reading athing to do every day, even if just for five minutes. A good time to do this is before bedtime. Make sure you read with fun in your voice to make it all the more exciting for your child. When your child is at an age where he or she can start reading, do this together with a favourite book.
3. Limit television viewing : The TV is often a bad excuse for parents who have no time so make sure you limit the hours your child spends on this. Instead spend them doing things together. Children need to hear and talk to adults in order to learn. Just watching television will not make this happen.
4. Have a positive attitute towards learning : Be positive and enthusiatic when your child comes back from school telling you of the new things he or she has learnt. Keep abreast of what is going on in school and take a pro-active approach in finding out your child's progress in school. Take an interest and if possible, try to enhance your child's learning progress with your own personal imvolvement.
5. Give your child the much needed praise : Children thrive on praises. So if your child has done well, let him or her know this. This will not only encourage your child but also shows that you care. Another good way to do this is by putting up drawings done your child on the refrigerator.
6. Encourage your child to use learning materials : Learning tools such as the dictionary and encyclopedia can be very useful indeed when your child is picking up new vocabulary or knowledge. Encourage them to constantly refer to these two when they want to answers to some queris they may have.
7. Take them out! : To the library, the museum, an exhibition or even the playground. Exposing your child to such activities will help encourage learning as well as motivate your child to learn more. Not only that, it is something fun for the entire family to do!

By Dr Goh Chee Leong, Cognitive/Developmental Pshycologist

Source : Positive Parenting magazine, Vol 1 : 2008, www.mypositiveparenting.org