Sunday, May 9, 2010

Beating the blues

Well, I want to share this article, from Positive Parenting magazine, vol 1 2010. You can also visit this website for other interesting articles http://www.mypositiveparenting.org/

This article was wrote by Dr Tan Ay Eeng, Consultant Obstetrician and Gynaecologist

Feeling low after childbirth is common, but letting the feelings linger can be damaging. Find out how you can beat the blues before the blues beat you

Postpartum blues, also known as baby blues, are the common but mild form of depression a new mother experiences after labour and delivery. It usually develops within the first two weeks following childbirth. However, bear in mind that postpartum blues is not an illness and will automatically disappear on its own.


What causes it?
The exact causes of postpartum blues are unknown, but many believe that the dramatic physical dan hormonal chnages in the mother's body may produce chemical chnages in the brain that results in the blues.


Husbands, Take note!
The symptoms of postpartum blues are rather mild, yet they can take a toll on your wife. Women who generally have low self-esteem, lack emotional support and have unreal perceptions of motherhood are at higher risk for experiencing postpartum blues. Here are symptoms that you should look for if you think your wife has developed postpartum blues :
  • Depressed mood
  • Have difficulties in sleeping
  • Inability to enjoy pleasurable activities
  • Feelings of inadequacy as a parent
  • Fatigue


Chasing the blues away

After giving birth, you may feel exhausted, uncomfortable and sleep-deprived. Here are several steps you can take to beat the blues :

  • Ensure you get enough sleep. Sleep deprivation can excerbate the blues. In fact, research has shown that sleep deprivation causes the brain's emotional centres to be 60% more reactive. So, make an effort to rest. Even a ten-minute nap can do wonders to lift up your mood
  • Talk to people. Do not be ashamed to share your feelings with your partner. When you share what you are feeling, it helps you to feel less overwhelmed. In fact, moms can consider joining support groups as this allows them to voice out their feelings and emotions in an educational and supportive environment
  • Allow yourself to cry. If you want to cry, let it out. Crying is actually a form off communication and believe it or not, crying is therapeutic and helps to relieve you of your tension and stress. Suppressing your emotions can only serve to prolong the blues
  • Eat healthy. What you can eat does affect your mood. Keep track of what you are eating. Studies have shown that foods that are high in omega 3 like soybeans, walnuts, tofu and sardines can help to elevate your mood


What happen if the blues worsen?

If the blues do not lift in two weeks, there is big possibility that you may be experiencing something more severe called postnatal depression. Seek medical attention immediately as staying in a prolonged state of postnatal depression can negatively interfere with your parenting experience



Monday, May 3, 2010

Tiring day

Hi there,

Today is a tiring, boring day. Wake up so early, doing houseworks. Then rushing ironing and preparing my daughter's bag. And now at work, boring and fed up with non-sense problem : no internet connection, can't do printing, can't even send or open my email. So many tasks waiting in the list but nothing can be done.

What a full of boring stuff day!